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Gazlighting is used by people with narcissistic disorders, sociopaths and psychopaths to exhaust you to such an extent that you can no longer resist. You might be looking for ways…

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Morality and justice
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LET’S TALK ABOUT IT”. ANTI-GUIDELINES FOR SOLVING SEXUAL PROBLEMS

This is the second article from the series “Anti-Guide psychologist Ilya Shabshin.” The first article was devoted to marital disputes, the third will deal with problems between parents and adult children. We hope that the non-standard form of presentation of the material will help the reader to extract and remember key points. We are sure that an attentive reader will correctly “decipher” all the provocative ideas and advice of the author. UNUSUAL TOPIC Raise your hands to those to whom parents calmly and clearly explained at one time, where the children come from, how do boys differ from girls, what is sex? Not enough hands, not enough. But you know that wise parents did everything right, for your own good, right? Therefore, remember: sex is an almost forbidden topic, talking to even the closest person on sexual topics is not very decent, especially if you share your problems or, if you are completely spoiled, your fantasies. TELEPATHY TRAINING Women! If the partner loves you, then he must guess what you like, what kind of affection excites you, and what you do not need to do. Even if your preferences change on different days (and nights), it’s all the same: he must intuitively feel what touches you want and which ones are unpleasant today, although you liked him the day before yesterday. If the partner is stupid and “misses”, there is no need to help and prompt him; there are better options, for example, get up and leave, let him suffer from guilt and increase his self-doubt. STYLE OF REAL MEN Men! When you have a desire to have sex with your wife, do not waste time making her desire appear; all these preludes were probably invented by composers who had nothing more to do. Why do we need some kind of foreplay when you want to get down to business, right? A woman should always be ready for intimacy or instantly excited at the very beginning of the process. After you have received satisfaction, you have every right, with a sense of accomplishment, to turn your back on your partner and fall asleep. It’s best to just ignore her strange wishes of tenderness – you look, she’ll get used to it over time. ACCIDENTS DO NOT HAPPEN Although, in theory, the male “mechanism” should work flawlessly, like a Kalashnikov assault rifle, it sometimes fails for some reason. Women, of course, you should not miss such a case (who knows – suddenly he will not introduce himself again)! It is worth telling your partner that you are disappointed that the “misfire” indicates that he does not love you, or that he is cheating on you. A man will deny all this, and then you ask: “Maybe you are sick?” Do not take his arguments about fatigue, thoughts and worries about any problems, these are just excuses. Let him clearly understand that what happened is his problem and he must solve it himself. For additional motivation, you can compare the possibilities of a husband in bed with one of your former partners – naturally, not in favor of the husband; this will give him extra confidence the next time. “GOOD LEFT STRENGTHENS MARRIAGE” Suppose you have been married for 10 years, you have children. We reliably know from romantic films that passion is forever, but you find that for some reason the attraction is gradually fading. If you are going to talk with your spouse about this, then stop! You almost made an irreparable mistake. After all, a person can be offended. The wife will think that she has become old, fat, not so pretty, and therefore her husband does not want her. The husband will think that his opportunities fade with age, he is no longer capable of the previous “feats” – everything is bad. Instead of confidential conversations and a joint search for constructive solutions, there are more interesting options. The main one is, of course, extramarital affairs. Take a look around: there are many attractive people of the opposite sex around! It is not for nothing that folk wisdom says: “A good leftist strengthens marriage.” Understanding problems with a spouse is so difficult and unpleasant, it is much easier and more pleasant to have an affair with a new “object”. It’s possible that you don’t need to search too much, the right candidate is right at work. Have to show fiction, hide relationships from everyone, invent legends about business trips, business meetings, negotiations – romance. But how many emotions! And it doesn’t matter that the problems in the marriage are not solved, that the fraud will be revealed, that the betrayal is fraught with divorce: the boring arguments of the mind are nullified when feelings and instincts play. “SILENCE, HIDE AND THESE FEELINGS” If you have been together for a long time, then with a high probability the intimate life in your couple is pretty monotonous, sometimes even boring and formal, and you may want to try something new. This is a dangerous impulse, because it implies irreversible changes in existing habits. Imagine what your spouse will think about you if you one day at breakfast share your sexual fantasies with him ?! Do not know? I’ll tell you. He will think: “Where did she get such thoughts?” Where did she get them? Is there nothing more to do? Maybe this is her friend shared her experience? Or maybe she did this to someone else ?! ”

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Let's talk soulfully. WHAT HINDS DEEP COMMUNICATION
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