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Evaluation Frame

Evaluation Frame (PF) is a practical communication technique that is useful to you in all areas of life, and not just when communicating with girls. With the help of PF, you will be able to adequately communicate with anyone, not allowing someone to put themselves in a conversation above you.

With regard to seduction, this technique is good in that it allows you to put together all kinds of possible answers to female bitch-shields (protecting bitch), neghits, just jokes, jokes, praise and even partially compliments. In addition, PF is very well used in disputes and all kinds of conflict situations.

As can be seen from the foregoing, PF is a universal technique that will be useful to any person in any area of ​​life. This technique will allow you not to drop yourself in any situation and, if necessary, to smash the interlocutor to smithereens or vice versa, to build a good relationship.

What is a frame?
A frame (from the English. ”Frame” – frame) – a certain abstract frame, within which the interlocutors communicate. The frame determines the adequacy of the behavior of the interlocutors since Each frame has its own roles. If a person does not behave in accordance with his role in a particular frame, he behaves inappropriately. If the interlocutors change roles, then the frame is turned over.

All frames are divided into universal
and specifically situational.
Concrete-situational ones presuppose a certain situation, while universal ones can be present in any situation.

For example, consider the “Pupil-Teacher” frame. This is a specific situational frame. It involves 2 roles: student and teacher. The teacher must teach and instruct, the student must listen carefully and perform.

If a student begins, for example, to communicate with the teacher familiarly, he breaks the frame, i.e. behaves inappropriately. If the student himself begins to teach the teacher something that he knows better, then he flips the frame – they change roles. Other examples of specific situational frames: “Father-son”, “two friends”, “seller-buyer”, etc.

The evaluation frame is among the universal frames. It can be present in any particular situational frame.

PF contains the following roles: Evaluating and Evaluated.
Who usually openly evaluates another? – Usually this is the one who stands above: the boss of the subordinate, the teacher of the student, etc. Accordingly, in the framework of the PF, the Assessor is higher than the Assessed.

Now it’s clear why, in communicating with a girl, it is unprofitable to be in the role of the Evaluated, i.e. allow to hang on themselves OF? It is much more profitable to be in the role of the Evaluator yourself. But for this it is necessary to understand what types of PFs are and what pitfalls are (and there are a lot of them).
Positive and negative OF
Two types of OF can be distinguished:
1. Negative (-OF) (with a minus sign)
2. Positive (+ PF) (with a plus sign)

A negative PF is what the common people call “fumbling.” An extreme case (-OF) are insults. When hanging (-OF), the Evaluator evaluates the Evaluated, identifying certain deficiencies in it.

For example:
• “When did you last wash your jacket?”,
• “do you often shave?” (Your jacket is dirty and you don’t follow yourself)
• “you don’t look with me” (you are a freak),
• “I have nothing to tell you” (you are not worthy to speak with you), etc.

(-OF) – a rather voluminous frame, and includes the following phrases: “fell. I’ve wrung myself up ”(posing yourself above),“ you remind me of a clown ”(assessment of behavior), etc. In general, any assessment of a person with a negative conclusion or setting oneself higher with a negative conclusion refers to (-OF).

A positive OF is what is called “praise.” Again, who usually praises whom? Upstream downline. “Good girl, daughter!” Is a classic example (+ OF). Any praise is a top-down assessment, but only a positive one.

Also, any phrase containing the words of a positive or negative assessment: “good”, “bad”, “smart”, “stupid”, “wonderful”, “lousy”, “wonderful”, “terrible”, etc. refers to PF. d.

When communicating, it is extremely disadvantageous to be Evaluated, regardless of whether (-OF) it is or (+ PF) because in any case the Evaluated turns out to be lower than the Evaluator in the role.
Examples of situations with PF not related to seduction:
• Student on the exam
• Politician in front of the camera
• Artist on stage
• Job interview job seeker
• Etc.

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