ICE AND FLAMES. TEMPERAMENTS SUCH DIFFERENT BUT TOGETHER
She is a styer: calm, balanced, slowly but surely moving towards the goal. He is a troubadour, a romantic and a bully, full of ideas and plans. Burns brightly, but quickly burns out. They are so different, but still they are together. Is a harmonious life possible between two emotionally different people? STORIES FROM LIFE THE SAME HALFS It would seem just fine when both creative people are paired. A joint flight of imagination, a fountain of common ideas, synchronous enthusiasm and understanding of each other from a half-view. Yes, compared to such a duet, the whole world around it will seem boring and gray. In the period of falling in love, such a couple is ready to illuminate everything around with their inner light, I want to make films about them and compose songs about them. But then the passions subside, this is normal. Wake up deeper and calmer feelings. Two absolutely identical people do not exist, even those who look in one direction may disagree. And when in both situations the mood suddenly changes, and not one of the couple can pull himself together, problems begin. What seemed ingenious is neurotic. As a result, both are shaken and need stability. But both are unable to give it. Quarrels become more frequent and, most likely, a break in relations occurs. TOTAL OPPOSITIONS Suppose he is an extreme and an avid traveler. She is an adventure lover exclusively in the books of Jack London. With a burning gaze, he tells her about the indescribably beautiful waterfalls, she finds analogies in world literature. He wants to show her all this, but she considers such an unjustified risk. Unlike cozy intellectual conversations and a leisurely measured life. But since all people are adults and intelligent, no one presses each other. He rafts along mountain rivers, conquering the rapids. She attends lectures on contemporary art and does not miss a single theatrical premiere. All this continues until he meets the perky blue-eyed soulmate on the next rafting. Or until she gets carried away by some professor-anthropologist. DEFINING THE CONCEPTS Temperament (from lat. Temperamentum – “proportionality, moderation”) is a regular correlation of stable individual personality traits that characterize various aspects of the dynamics of mental activity and behavior. There are four types of human temperament: Sanguine. Bright, with expressive gestures and rich facial expressions. Always open, reacts quickly and violently to what is happening around. Energetic and very able-bodied. In most cases, an extrovert. Choleric. Fairly neurotic. Intemperate, emotional about what is happening, without delving into the situation. Very persistent and persistent, which helps him achieve his goal by any means. Like a sanguine person, an extrovert is also more often. Phlegmatic person. Man is an emotional rock. Unperturbed, even if there is a storm and other natural disasters around. Saves emotions, does not scatter gestures. He gets used to the new hard and long, experiencing everything in himself. Melancholic. Anxious and sensitive. Shy, touchy and quiet. He is very easy to confuse due to a complete lack of self-confidence. Temperament always leaves its mark on human behavior. Moreover, different combinations of psychotypes lead to completely different communications. Compatibility of temperaments is well known, including from the works of V.I. Kulikov, from which it follows that temperaments such as choleric + phlegmatic and sanguine + melancholic are more often combined. Phlegmatic perfectly tolerates the emotional outbursts of choleric and supports him with his reliability and confidence. Due to the scarcity of emotions, the melancholic is very impressed by the waves of sanguine behavior, begins to see the world more rosyly. This is a comfortable type of interaction of psychotypes. The choleric with a melancholic is worse. The sharpness and the habit of “chopping the shoulders” do not get along with melancholy and permanent sadness. Sanguine and phlegmatic are also joyless. Slow phlegmatic just does not keep pace with the rapid sanguine and reads at such a speed superficiality and inattention. All this is a disorientation type of interaction of temperaments. In addition to the extreme positions, there are intermediate, “average” options. This is a cool, but fairly strong union of phlegmatic and melancholic, where respect is respected for everyone’s inner world, but over time, estrangement grows in relationships. Or the union of the sanguine and choleric are both leaders, but the sanguine is more loyal and can step aside at the right time. Such interactions are called tuning. And finally, the monotonous type of interaction of temperaments – when there are two identical psychotypes. Here, the compatibility options can be diametrically opposed – for example, sanguine people can communicate well together, and choleric people who have poor control over their emotions are the hardest ones. APPLICATION OF KNOWLEDGE IN LIFE Of course, none of us will, having studied the materiel, look for a partner with a theoretically necessary temperament.