EMOTIONAL CHANGE. WHY PARTNERS ARE AWAY FROM ANOTHER
You began to notice that your soulmate is increasingly delayed after work or spends a lot of time on social networks. Later you will learn about the person your partner is talking to. To the questioning, he / she replies: “This is just a friend / colleague. There is nothing between us. ” It looks like you are faced with emotional betrayal. Innocent prank or betrayal? Men and women “emotional betrayal” can be perceived differently, but still they agree on one thing. Emotional betrayal is “when the heart goes to another,” “conversations with someone about the innermost,” “she or he often does not correspond with me,” etc. That is, your partner is looking for understanding and sympathy in the eyes of another person, but you don’t know anything about his problems and experiences. More and more people are thinking about whether “online flirting” can be considered treason. Some are inclined to believe that for their partner this is just entertainment, the main thing is that it does not turn into “virtual sex” or real betrayal. Some say: “Have an appetite on the side, but always have lunch at home.” Others perceive “Internet flirting” as an insult and betrayal. Today, when everyone has a smartphone on hand, it is not necessary to leave home to change your soulmate. The Internet is a place of temptations that not everyone can handle, especially those who are not happy with something in a relationship. In addition to the Internet, a place for creating “close emotional relationships” on the side can be work. It is there that a person spends a quarter of his time, and this involves the creation of strong social contacts. There is nothing wrong with communicating with colleagues, it’s another matter if a person of the opposite sex appears among your new acquaintances, with whom your other half spends too much time. WHEN IS THE TIME TO BE WALKED ON? Estrangement. You talk less and less, and if this happens, then mainly on everyday topics. If you previously discussed the events that occurred during the day, now the partner is limited to a couple of dry phrases. You notice that your partner spends more and more time on social networks, for hours chatting with a stranger of the opposite sex. Even if you know his interlocutor, you should be alarmed by the fact that he (she) spends a lot of time communicating and constantly sends him messages. Your partner has a friend of the opposite sex, with whom he (she) spends a lot of time, which cannot but affect your relationship. It is important to understand that innocent friendships with the opposite sex can sometimes grow into something more. In her study, the American psychologist Shirley Glass came to the conclusion that most violent romance on the side begins with the appearance in the life of a husband or wife of a new friend. At that moment, a trusting relationship develops between them and no one feels the imminent danger. In conversations with a partner, the phrase “You don’t understand me at all, not that Vasya (Anya) …” LOOKS ON YOURSELF Let’s look at the signs that someone who changes or is close to this can notice himself. You are increasingly meeting your new friend in secret from a partner, family, and friends. You strive to spend as much time as possible with a friend. In conversations with your friend, you share intimate things with him. You are not so open with your partner. It seems to you that your new friend understands you better than a partner. In the event of stressful situations, you are looking for support from a new friend, not from the second half. In your couple, emotional and sexual intimacy began to disappear. For you, it is becoming less and less significant. With a new friend, you share values and thoughts that your partner categorically does not support. Quarrels arise between you and your partner, and you turn to a new friend for comfort. You constantly have a desire to touch a new friend: to acquire, to take by the hand. You discuss sexual topics with a friend, and you can easily imagine your friend as a sexual object. WHY IT HAPPENED? Violation of proximity. We are talking about coldness, ignoring feelings, unwillingness to listen, in the absence of the ability or desire to allocate time for communication with the second half. Fading feelings. The past passion has passed, the partners want new sensations that they cannot find in each other. In this case, they try to satisfy their emotional needs on the side. Reluctance of partners to recognize and solve problems in relationships. The appearance of a happy marriage is not enough. If the apple inside is rotten, it doesn’t matter how beautiful it looks, nobody will eat it anyway. Low self-esteem. There are times when one of the partners feels dissatisfaction with himself, it seems to him that he is no longer attractive to others in sexual terms. A person wants to prove the opposite to himself, therefore he seeks to establish relationships on the side. In our time, this is easiest to do, you just have to go online through your phone or laptop.