CHANGE. FALSE IN RESCUE
This topic is under the heading “completely forbidden.” It is so delicate that there can be no uniform recommendations here. What happened in your life – an adventure or a fatal mistake? How to go further with this? Draw conclusions, cross out the past, write from scratch …
This story has no black and white conclusions, it has many shades, and it’s up to you to decide which colors to paint for your future. The paradox is that society treats male and female infidelities differently. In the male world, the fact of adultery is easier to explain, because the myth of the “polygamous nature” of men is still alive. And if a woman tries on the fateful role, it will be difficult to find understanding among others. Rather, the traitor awaits condemnation and anger.
WE ARE SO DIFFERENT
If we turn to Sigmund Freud, we will find yet another justification for the pattern of men’s unfaithfulness. Ostensibly human males obey the call of nature and must do as much as possible so that their race continues. And women do not need this. Their main task is to find a worthy father for future offspring. Therefore, since olden times, a woman has not sought to increase the number of her chosen ones; she simply wants to find the best. It seems to find. But it happens that after a while she realizes that it is not him. The result – disappointment and the search for a new partner. Treason is always serious about feelings.
THE WAY TO ADULTIER
The standard plot is a pretty neighbor, colleague, family friend. A man who pays attention more than a spouse. A pair of glances, as if filled with meaning, a few “random” meetings, emotional conversation – these circumstances may well lead to a joint breakfast in bed. This is a story about a lack of attention. About dislike, about emotional abandonment, in which that truly female energy is impossible, which can awaken a man’s desire to turn mountains for his beloved.
The mistake is that a woman sincerely suggests that a man has the gift to read thoughts. Instead, it is best to initiate a calm conversation and voice all your emotional needs. There is nothing shameful or unimportant.
MISCELLANEOUS SEXUAL TEMPERAMENTS
It is no secret that sex is an essential component of relationships. Physical proximity is one of the important sources of hormones of happiness, without which human health is at risk. Strengthening the neural pathways responsible for sexuality, producing oxytocin, which promotes trusting relationships, is all about sex. The absence of problems in this area allows maintaining mutual interest and attraction to each other.
A frank conversation before you decide to dive into the pool is able to clarify a lot. You are not strangers, you can speak openly. A confidential tête-à-tête conversation is so sexy.
Another of the top reasons for a one-time love adventure is “he is to blame,” “he first started,” “he forced me.” Typically, these phrases do not manifest a reaction to an action, but an accumulated resentment. This form of treason is rather a provocation and a statement “Well, how do you like it now?” This is a “malignant” variant of adultery, and it is unlikely that it will turn out to go unnoticed. Yes, and it is doubtful that a woman who cheated for revenge will hide her act. Even if, due to external circumstances, this is not openly said, she will leave a “trace” of her crime, subconsciously hoping that it will be revealed.
Emotional devastation, problems with the spouse, lack of confidence in the future. Or perhaps a real psychological brief that turns a woman into a frightened victim. All these are reasons for low self-esteem.
This condition makes you desperately seek confirmation of their significance in the eyes of another man. Purpose: to be saved and calm down with someone strong nearby. Most often, such problems in the family require the participation of a specialist. The psychologist will help to identify the true causes of such a “polygamy” and, perhaps, life will change.
LIFE AFTER. WHAT TO DO?
So it happened. It didn’t become easier, the load of shameful secrets presses from the inside, not allowing to breathe deeply. And now a woman, under the weight of guilt, is entangled in a network of invented (including) mistakes and is ready to admit everything. At this moment, you should pull yourself together, stop and think things over well.
We were taught from childhood to always tell only the truth. We were clearly shown the boundaries of what is permitted and what is right. And certainly betrayal is treason. And betrayal is bad. This is a situation where cheating is a mistake and the woman realizes that the family is the most valuable.
I want to atone for a perfect bad deed in order to get rid of a burning sense of guilt. And as on purpose, you everywhere begin to see reproaching signs that encourage repentance, obedience. As if reminding you that you can’t store such a stone in yourself.
Calmly. You have already done all the wrong things, now it’s time to ask yourself the question: who needs your truth?
You? To throw a stone from the soul? You will tell everything, obey, but catharsis, alas, will not come. Already two people will suffer.