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WHAT IS A CUKOLD IN RELATIONS?

At the consultations, men and women talk about sexual fantasies about treason and their fears. And some women complain that their husbands are forcing this form of sexual activity. Let’s see what cuckold is: reasons, hidden motives of the participants, consequences for the couple. Cuckold is a form of abnormal sexual behavior that combines group sex and sadomasochism. One of the sexual epidemics of the XXI century. Porn is full of stories on this topic. Previously, people were afraid of betrayal of a partner and by all means sought to avoid it. And now a new deviant trend is revealed – a person experiences sexual arousal, fantasizing about a real or fictional betrayal of a permanent partner. And some couples realize these fantasies in coking. In such a pair, the husband is called kukold, the wife is sex-wif. The partner who is invited to a couple is the dominator, or the “goby”. We will deal with the origin of the term. There are two interpretations. The first is a cuckold (translated from English). The second – cuckoo (cuckoo) – a bird tossing its eggs into other people’s nests. And the last – an English borrowing from two words: cock – a member, old – an old or inactive penis. SCRIPT OPTIONS 1. The husband rents his wife out for several days or hours to one or several men. Lease terms are negotiated in advance. After returning, the wife provides her husband with a video of treason. 2. A couple invites a man. The husband prepares his wife, “warms” her – in fact, excites her to transfer her to the dominator. A wife with a dominator performs sexual intercourse in front of her husband. At the same time, the wife in every possible way demonstrates her excitement to her husband. The husband does not enter into sexual contact, only watches and masturbates. In this scenario, the initiator of sex is the husband. 3. The initiator of kukoldinga is the wife. A woman and a dominator feminize her husband – “turn him into a girl.” This is expressed in the fact that the husband, along with his wife, “as a woman,” participates in sexual intercourse with the dominator. The husband carries him oral sex, licks the sperm of the dominator from the genitals of his wife. In conclusion, the dominator has anal sex with him. Dominator in an active position, husband in a passive. In fact, this is a scenario of “castration of a husband”, where he is humiliated (with his consent). Both husband and wife go to the implementation of such a scenario on their own. That is, it is not about rape. Such a scenario was called “maximum kukold.” VARIETIES OF THE MAXIMUM CUKOLD Chastity – when the wife puts on a “chastity belt” on the genitals of her husband. A man wears it constantly. The belt has a hole for urination. The chastity belt is a special device made of soft metal, wood or alloy. It can be locked or programmed. The key to the “barn lock” is kept by his wife. All the husband’s sexual behavior is regulated by his wife and dominator. Fertilization – the wife has sex with her husband in a condom, and with her lover – without, the husband brings up children from the lover. Lover has no rights to them. In ads on themed dating sites, couples practicing cuckolds describe their preferences as follows: “I am looking for a lover for my wife with a decent size of 18 cm, attentive and delicate”, “I am looking for a strong man, my husband is a slave without a taboo, we will bring up together he’s a n * dora, “I’m looking for a status, generous man, I’m waiting for gifts from him, I taught my husband to take off and put on a condom on her lover, she’s ready to have children from her lover,” “we are looking for a strong man with a decent size of 19 cm, my husband likes to dress as a girl ready for mines etu, loves strapon ”,“ I’m looking for a friend and a constant lover who is familiar with the topic of cuckolds, who is ready for a joint holiday in the resort with full payment on your part ”and so on. REASONS FOR CUKOLDING Realization of sadomasochistic desires. In the pair the scenario “submission – domination” is played out with a clear distribution of roles. In this case, the husband takes on the role of masochist, the roles of sadists are distributed between the wife and lover. For both partners, husband and wife, this scenario is beneficial. More often in such a marriage there are people with complementary psychopathology – one mental disorder compensates for another. Sexual dysfunction or weak sexual constitution of a man. A husband cannot satisfy his wife’s “appetites”. This leads to the fact that in the couple there is a lack of sexual energy. To make up for it, a cuckold is chosen – they invite a more “testosterone male with a decent member.” Member – in the eyes of the majority – a symbol of masculine power. (Although, as a sexologist, I can argue that the length of the penis does not affect male strength. And certainly the large penis will not guarantee the man protection from sexual disorders.) For a while, the energy in the couple is replenished. When the “male” for some reason ceases to participate in coking, a rollback occurs. The pair has nowhere to take sexual energy from, and they cannot and do not want to produce it inside the pair. In sexual scenarios where the husband comes into homosexual contact, it is a latent homosexual attraction.

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