Morality and justice
Every system, as a subject, is always right. It can be pathological or vicious only for other systems with qualitatively different standards and values. That is, there is no morality…

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Why do men love bitch
There is such a phenomenon that some men choose bitchy women. The explanation is very simple - boredom. The reasons why men love bitch come from childhood. Our men are…

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EMOTIONAL CHANGE. WHY PARTNERS ARE AWAY FROM ANOTHER
You began to notice that your soulmate is increasingly delayed after work or spends a lot of time on social networks. Later you will learn about the person your partner…

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THE FILM “WHAT HIDES A FALSE” LOOKS TOGETHER WITH A PSYCHOLOGIST

“What hides the lie.” USA, 2000 Director: Robert Zemeckis Cast: Michelle Pfeiffer, Harrison Ford A happy married couple finds themselves in a strange situation. The wife begins to imagine the ghost of a woman in distress. People around her consider her words to be hysterical antics or insanity, and her husband even says that she maliciously wants to distract him from his scientific career. Claire (the name of the heroine) begins an independent investigation, which leads to unexpected results. And she herself doesn’t know if she wants to know the truth … Stop or reach the end? The truth is not always easy to accept. Reality can be both frightening and sad … It does not have to adapt to our expectations. You can get mad at bad weather, but it will not change it. The weather does not depend on our interests. The same applies to the other facets of reality: they are governed by many causal relationships that are little dependent on us and our interests. Therefore, reality can cause many painful experiences. And then the protective mechanisms of the psyche are turned on, they want to save us from emotional pain. Among them is negation and neglect. They “help” not to see that which is unpleasant. Sometimes it comes to the point of absurdity. So, the mother of one of my patients with a diagnosis of “addiction” said: “I found syringes, ampoules, burnt spoons, tows at home … But I couldn’t even think that he was an addict!” There is a psychophysiological phenomenon of the dominant that I wrote about 100 years ago our great compatriot A. A. Ukhtomsky: we see what we want to see, we expect to see. By a similar principle, we ignore what we do not want to see; completely deny or do not attach importance, forget … As in a joke: – You hear only what you want to hear! – What? Wine and chocolate? Of course I will! Seeing reality and accepting it can be difficult, it takes courage. The heroine of the film decided on this “feat”. And you? .. EXERCISE FOR INDEPENDENT WORK RESEARCH OF THE IGNORING MECHANISM Answer your questions: What do you tend to overlook in your life, what to forget about? What is the benefit of this mechanism, from which you save yourself in this way? What happens if you pay attention to this part of your life? What specific steps can you take to change your situation or take it?

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This is the second article from the series "Anti-Guide psychologist Ilya Shabshin." The first article was devoted to marital disputes, the third will deal with problems between parents and adult…

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This is the second article from the series "Anti-Guide psychologist Ilya Shabshin." The first article was devoted to marital disputes, the third will deal with problems between parents and adult…

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